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Is it Time to Be Spontaneous?

by bevbarnes on September 11, 2013

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It’s September!

This September for the very first time ever, I didn’t start school or help someone else start school.

I went away to Mexico with a girlfriend.



My oldest and best friend called me up and asked me to go.  I listened to my body compass and it read “GO!”  So I said YES and went.

I cancelled my appointments – and left.

My clients weren’t upset.

My friend was shocked I was coming.  We’ve known each other all our lives and I wouldn’t be described as the spontaneous type.

I’ve always equated spontaneous with irresponsible.  Until now.

I consulted with my family, sure they wanted me to stick around.

I asked my son “Do you mind if I go?”  He looked at me quizzically and said “Go.  Have fun Mom.”

I consulted my husband.  “Does it bother you if I go away with a girlfriend?”

After joking that he was planning a trip to Thailand with a buddy, he said, “It’s your decision.  If you want to go do it!”

Surprisingly no one was reeling with disappointment about my decision.  Hmmm.

So I went to Mexico.

Hot sun, connecting with a friend for a week, for the first time in more years than I can count, freedom, rest and rejuvenation.

And when I came back, I had clarity – that I wasn’t even seeking:

Clarity that I had to get off-line more.

Clarity that I needed to do more in-person work and less telephone work.

Clarity that I needed more space in my life where I do nothing.

Here’s my clarity and confidence tip this week:

Do something spontaneous – that is totally for YOU.

It’ll bring you closer to your real self and help you figure out what you need.


I LOVE hearing from you. What spontaneous thing have you done lately that was totally for YOU?  Share your insights and tips below on the blog.

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Cheryl Brown September 12, 2013 at 12:53 pm

This is not recent, but last October I went to Niagra falls with my aunt and uncle. We all just decided on a whim to go. I live in Florida and they live in Ohio so we don’t see each other often at all. I don’t think my husband or I could ever be with a possessive spouse, so I wasn’t worried about getting any sort of permission. We happened to make it to the falls on the last week that they were still open to go down to the bottom. The autumn leaves were at their peak color and it was unusually warm. We had a blast and it was beautiful.

It was so nice to catch up with family. I went to see some cousins I hadn’t seen since my childhood and drove through a lot of Amish country. My cousins stirred up such wonderful memories of our time together as children and of my mother that died 5 years ago.

We’ve all gotten older and have grown children now, but after about fifteen minutes it felt like we were buddies again. I came back feeling like I got so much more than what I came for.


Steph September 17, 2013 at 2:51 am

I *adore* that you asked for permission and got the “yeah, why not?” from those you cared about. That sounds absolutely magical!!!!

I recently decided to take an unplanned email sabbatical and left the interwebs for about 3 weeks. And you know what? I came back and NO ONE was angry at me. Crazy! I could do what I needed to care for myself and not rock tectonic plates.

Gorgeous stuff here.

Thank you!


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